Forgiveness and Healing

We all have choices. We choose what we eat, what we wear and even who we love. We even have a choice about forgiveness. Some offenses might be easier to forgive than others but we still have the opportunity to choose.

For those of us who have suffered trauma at another persons hand forgiveness is as essential to life as breath. If you need an apology and the offender can admit the wrong they have done and you think an apology will help, then you should have an apology.

Trauma affects every aspect of a persons life for a very long time. It robs you and your children and family and friends of the person you would have been. It changes you forever. By forgiving, you can take back part of what was lost. You can gain a measure of control over your life. After trauma or abuse we spend lots of time thinking about it and talking about it. We spend time with our therapists learning coping skills and how to move on with our lives. It's my opinion that at some point after we go through the therapy and talk about our trauma that we put it on a shelf...just for a bit. Our trauma/abuse has defined us long enough. I'm not suggesting that we forget what happened to us...only that we forgive and love and be who we are meant to be...